Sextion: Love for every body

Happy Love Your Body Day, beautiful readers! Today is an especially important day for the many of us who have, at one time or another, struggled with poor body image and low self-esteem. It is a sensitive and deep-seated issue for a lot of us, and one that takes work each and every day to overcome. Many of us even still struggle with it today.

When I start thinking about how body image manifests itself at Brown, I can’t help but think about Friday and Saturday nights. And the short skirts and the heels and all of the bodies that we are surrounded by. These people seem so confident, a level that I can’t seem to reach without a few drinks in me. Most of the time I just feel uncomfortable. But I spend forever trying to plan an outfit—it isn’t necessarily one that I think looks good, but it’s one that I think a potential hook-up will like. This idea that I may end the night hooking up with someone definitely affects how I get ready to go out.

Will they like the undergarments I’m wearing? Am I cleanly shaven enough for their preferences? Do you ever wonder where our opinions on body hair come from? Would we feel the same sense of disgust about body hair that many of us do if we hadn’t seen naked mole rats in porn? Or hadn’t had a friend tell us that shaving was what everyone else was doing? Would it even occur to us to remove this “excess” hair if society didn’t force it on us—would we shave, wax, pluck, Nair, or Smooth Away all of that “unwanted hair”? How did hairy become synonymous with dirty in many of our minds? Are we altering ourselves because we want to or because we think that’s what our partner wants?

One friend said to me, “I honestly don’t care what you do, as long as you feel comfortable and confident,” but is that just them being exceptionally nice? I like to think it isn’t. So I have taken my dear friend’s advice to heart. I get ready with the intention of making myself feel sexy and wearing what I find to be comfortable. And I still wear the heels because it makes me feel like a BAMF, but I might wear them with pants because it’s cold out, and I try to feel confident because confidence is sexier than any of my lame-ass attempts at trying to feign comfort in clothes that I don’t like to wear. If you love the short skirt, rock the short skirt because you it makes you feel sexy. But if you don’t, that’s okay too. It’s all okay. Show that you love your body because every body should be loved. After all, it’s the only one we’re going to get. So give yourself some appreciation, pass by a mirror and give yourself a compliment, not a judgment. You are beautiful, no matter your size, shape, color, or flavor. Know that. And love yourself.

Because, as RuPaul, the sexiest lady I’ve ever seen, always says, “If you don’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else?”

So go out and love yourself and your body.

Until next week,

Monica B.

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