Menstruation itself is a taboo subject, let alone engaging in sexual activity during those days of the month when Mother Nature is wreaking havoc on a woman’s uterus. Honestly, I couldn’t help but laugh when, during a not-so-sober evening, one of my guy friends leaned over and said to me, “You’re not a real man until you get some blood on your sword.” While this is mildly chauvinistic and heteronormative, there is some truth in suggesting that sex should not be entirely written off when a woman has her period. For all of those interested, we have listed some pros and cons of having sex when a woman is on her period below. Find out how you can ensure that you are doing it cleanly and safely after the jump.
The pros of sex on your period?
- You may be hornier. Many women report being more sexually sensitive during their period, and even more report increased libido. The changes in hormones during menstruation increase the cravings for sex and enjoyment of sex.
- Sex on your period may shorten its duration. Menstruation occurs when spasms in the uterus cause the lining to begin shedding. Having sex, or more accurately, orgasms, creates more muscle spasms in the uterus that push the blood out faster. Want your period to be over sooner? Orgasms! Orgasms! Orgasms!
- Cramp relief. Those same orgasms that shorten the duration of your period also help relieve painful period cramps. In case you haven’t noticed, the Big O feels really good, as it releases endorphins and other feel good hormones. These hormones help reduce painful cramps and may also improve your mood.
- Better lubrication. Many couples may be in denial about the fact that natural lubrication isn’t always enough. You won’t have that problem when a woman is on her period. This increased lubrication makes the sex better for both parties.
The cons of sex on your period?
- If either partner is uncomfortable, the sex is going to suck. It may seem that during sex your brain goes out the window and all forthcoming decisions are made by your junk, but emotions play a very important role in the bedroom. If you’re nervous or uncomfortable, your arousal will falter and the sex will not be pleasurable. Yes, period sex can seem gross and weird. So if it’s not for you, don’t worry about it.
- Oral sex can be, uh, complicated. But it can be accomplished with products like the Diva Cup.
- It’s messy. Yes, there will be blood. That’s what a period is. It takes a bit more thought and planning to be successful, and it means knowing how the body works. So maybe skip the sex on your heaviest flow day.
So, if you’re thinking of giving period sex a try, here are some tips for success:
- Lay down a towel and keep tissues nearby. And wear a condom. And avoid your heaviest flow day. This will make clean up a lot easier.
- Take sanitary products out beforehand. If you’re in the moment, a tampon string or giant maxi-pad can definitely be a mood-killer. It’s a good idea to take some time in the bathroom before, just be careful during the time in-between. But you’re having period sex; it’s going to be messy anyway.
- Gravity is your enemy. Girl-on-top positions may not be your best bet, so period sex is the time to perfect your missionary skills.
- Shower sex. Sex in the shower can be the perfect solution for the messes of period sex. Normally, sex in the shower can be problematic because water is bad for lubrication. However, being on your period can solve that issue, and the clean up is no problem.
- Sex doesn’t necessarily mean penetrative, penis-in-vagina intercourse. There are many other equally pleasurable activities that you and your partner can try if period sex isn’t going to work. Shortening your period duration and relieving cramps are achieved through orgasm, not necessarily intercourse.
If you’re curious about having sex on your period, why not give it a go? Some women report it’s the best sex they’ve ever had! Try out our tips and let us know what you think.
Margaret and Monica