Family Weekend 2014 has come to a close, and at this point, you’ve probably got the feels. Whether your family came to Brown or stayed at home, saying goodbye to or being away from them has probably got you feeling some type of way. Loneliness/nostalgia/homesickness sucks, so here are some tips on how to start feeling better:
1. Adopt a pet. It’s tough to go from being surrounded by loved ones to being by yourself. In order to combat your feelings of loneliness, consider calling your local animal shelter and getting yourself a puppy, a kitten, or even a goldfish. Fill the hole in your life by creating a family of your own that will love you all the time! Just make sure your RPLs don’t know…
2. Get into a heated argument with your family. Nothing will make it easier to stop missing your family than wanting to never see their faces again. Give them a call after they leave, pick a hot topic–racism, classism, ableism, sexism, heteronormativity, sexuality, your social construct of choice, the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, or which Blue Room muffin is best–and get really offended by something your parents say. Maybe they’re so horribly insensitive that they’re not up to speed with your vocabulary, maybe they say something that might or might not be somewhat controversial, or maybe they’re just not passionate enough. Regardless, exercise no restraint and get really upset. Your anger and frustration will help you feel a lot better about saying goodbye.
3. Go shopping. Retail therapy: a classic coping mechanism. Take a stroll down Thayer and hit up Urban Outfitters, buy an ice cream cake for every kid on your hall, take your entire ECON110 lecture out to lunch, or blow some cash at the Providence Place Mall if you’re feeling bold. New clothes, gadgets and food will make you feel like
you’ve spent a million bucks! Plus, if you spend a lot of money, this could lead to tip #2, providing you with an even greater sense of closure!
4. Study. A lot. Take all that pent-up anxiety and sadness and channel it into some hardcore studying. Make extensive lists of everything that you have to do for the rest of the semester and get to work! Hide away in your room, a lounge, the second/third floors of Faunce, the Rock, the Hay, the stacks of the SciLi, or wherever your favorite study spot is, and get really focused. Like. Really. Focused. You’ll be so busy that you won’t even have time to think about missing home.
5. Pump up the jams. An impromptu dance party is an excellent way to let loose and get rid of all those bad feelings. Whether you’re in your room, at the Ratty, on the fourth floor of the SciLi, or in the bathroom, grab some speakers and start twerking the sentimentality away! I highly recommend playing Beyoncé. Bey makes everything better. Pro-tip: If you’re in need of extra consolation, check out Life Is But a Dream, Bey’s HBO documentary. Borrow someone’s HBO GO subscription and get ready to live vicariously through the Queen’s as she spills her life story. You can’t really dance to it, but trust me when I say that you’ll feel happy and empowered by the end of the movie.
And if none of these tips work, you could always just talk it out with someone.