Sextion: A dating approval matrix

With the advent of Brown University ComplimentsAdmirers, and now Scramblers, it is clear that lust love is in the air. And with Valentine’s Day right around the corner, it’s time for you to start thinking about how to spend it. Whether or not you consider yourself a dating aficionado, Blog has decided to help. Here are some activities you could do with your main hang that cover the entire date/not date spectrum (based on the level of thoughtfulness).


According to Alex Williams of the New York Times, traditional courtship is on the outs for our generation (millenials, as they call us). And while we can say good riddance to some of the former rules of engagement to create a greater sense of gender equality, it is true that our new methods of dating are severely lacking: we millenials have no intentionality in the way we interact with those whom we are interested in.

“Dating culture has evolved to a cycle of text messages, each one requiring the code-breaking skills of a cold war spy to interpret,” Williams writes. We’re not sure if the person we’re texting is even interested in us because of his/her overly cryptic text messages, and we end up feeling like a freak when we triple-text in response.

So instead of texting the person you’re interested in “Oh hey, I’m at this party on John Street and then going to Charlesfield. Text me and I’ll see where I’m at,” why not make an actual plan? Be purposeful in your actions–call your date, pick him/her up at the dorm rather than meeting him/her somewhere. Show your date that he/she is more than an addition to whatever plans you have for the evening. And yeah, it’s scary and requires a lot more bravery than most of us have. It’s also a bit less convenient (think of the last time you rang someone’s doorbell to pick them up at their house as opposed to honking, texting or calling when you arrive), but it will be worth it in the end. So if you’re thinking of taking someone on a date this Valentine’s Day or at any other time, be intentional in your actions. You get what you give.

Don’t forget you can email with any questions or comments. See you next week.


Monica and Margaret

Image by Jason Hu.

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